An aphorism is nothing else but the slightest
form of writing raised to the highest level of expressive communication. Carl William Brown





If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.


Barbara De Angelis (American expert on relationship & love, author)


Different men seek after happiness in different ways and by different means, and so make for themselves different modes of life.


Aristotle (BC 384-322, Greek philosopher)


The best way to forget one's self is to look at the world with attention and love.


Red Auerbach (1917-, American basketball coach)


She soothed and solaced and celebrated, destroying her gift by maiming it to suit her hearers.


Martha Bacon


You cannot belong to anyone else, until you belong to yourself.


Pearl Bailey (1918-1990, American vocalist, movie and stage actress)


Strong people don't need strong leaders.


Ella Baker


I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.


Lucille Ball (1911-1989, American actress, producer)


In a world that holds books and babies and canyon trails, why should one condemn oneself to live day in, day out with people one does not like, and sell oneself to chaperone and correct them?


Ruth Benedict (1887-1948, American anthropologist)


Next to God we are indebted to women, first for life itself, and then for making it worth living.


Mary McLeod Bethune (1875-1955, American educator, consultant for the U.S. government)


It is sometimes the man who opens the door who is the last to enter the room.


Elizabeth Bibesco


When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and bring joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.


Jean Shinoda Bolen (American medical doctor)


Our first and last love is... self-love.


John Christian Bovee (1820-1904, American author, lawyer)


A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success.


Dr. Joyce Brothers (1927-, American psychologist, television and radio personality)


The white light streams down to be broken up by those human prisms into all the colors of the rainbow. Take your own color in the pattern and be just that.


Charles R. Brown


Don't worry about growing older or pleasing others. Please yourself.


David Brown


Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.


Les Brown (1945-, American speaker, author, trainer, motivator,)


From self alone expect applause.


Marian L. Burton


Self-love for ever creeps out, like a snake, to sting anything which happens to stumble upon it.


Lord Byron (1788-1824, British poet)


You really have to look inside and find your inner strength, and say, "I'm proud of what I am and who I am, and I'm just going to be myself."


Mariah Carey (1970-, American musician, singer, songwriter)


How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something, but to be someone.


Coco Chanel (1883-1971, French couturier)


Monkeys are superior to men in this: when a monkey looks into a mirror, he sees a monkey.


Malcolm De Chazal (1902-1981, French writer)


I'm uncomfortable when I'm comfortable... I can't help it, it's my personality.


Jay Chiat


That suit is best that best suits me.


John Clark


To have that sense of one's intrinsic worth which constitutes self-respect is potentially to have everything.


Joan Didion (1934-, American essayist)


Glamour is assurance. It is a kind of knowing that you are all right in every way, mentally and physically and in appearance, and that, whatever the occasion or the situation, you are equal to it.


Marlene Dietrich (1904-1992, German-born American film actor)


I'd rather be able to face myself in the bathroom mirror than be rich and famous.


Ani DiFranco


The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.


Walt Disney (1901-1966, American artist, film producer)


Philosophy is a purely personal matter. A genuine philosopher's credo is the outcome of a single complex personality; it cannot be transferred. No two persons, if sincere, can have the same philosophy.


Havelock Ellis (1859-1939, British psychologist)


A low self-love in the parent desires that his child should repeat his character and fortune.


Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882, American poet, essayist)


Until you know that life is interesting, and find it so, you haven't found your soul.


Geoffrey F. Fisher (1887-1972, British archbishop of Canterbury)


The older women were Sunbeams and I guess we were Cherubs or Lambs, but our mothers were Nightingales.


Janet Flanner


The first thing is to love your sport. Never do it to please someone else. It has to be yours.


Peggy Fleming (1948-, American skater)


All life is the struggle, the effort to be itself.


Jose Ortega Y Gasset (1883-1955, Spanish essayist, philosopher)


Self-love exaggerates our faults as well as our virtues.


Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe (1749-1832, German poet, dramatist, novelist)


I've learned to take time for myself and to treat myself with a great deal of love and respect `cause I like me.... I think I'm kind of cool.


Whoopi Goldberg (1949-, American actress, comedian)


The worst walls are never the ones you find in your way. The worst walls are the ones you put there -- you build yourself. Those are the high ones, the thick ones, the ones with no doors in.


Ursula K. Le Guin (1929-, American author)


You are all you will ever have for certain.


June Havoc


I've finally stopped running away from myself. Who else is there better to be?


Goldie Hawn (1945-, American actress)


If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.


Louise L. Hay (American metaphysical teacher, lecturer, author)

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What's a man's first duty? The answer is brief: To be himself.


Henrik Ibsen (1828-1906, Norwegian dramatist)


Keep integrity and your work ethics intact. So what if that means working a little harder; an honorable character is your best calling card, and that's something anyone can have!


Kathy Ireland (1963-, American model)


There is a voice inside which speaks and says, "This is the real me!"


William James (1842-1910, American psychologist, professor, author)


Self-love is often rather arrogant than blind; it does not hide our faults from ourselves, but persuades us that they escape the notice of others.


Samuel Johnson (1709-1784, British author)


Self-love depressed becomes self-loathing.


Sally Kempton


Be that self which one truly is.


Soren Kierkegaard (1813-1855, Danish philosopher, writer)


Now matter how many discoveries we make in the vast regions of self-love, undiscovered regions still remain there.


Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)


Self-love either increases or diminishes our measure of the good qualities of our friends, and does so in proportion to the satisfaction we feel with them; and we judge their virtue by way they act towards us.


Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)


There are more people without self-love than there are without envy.


Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)


We can love nothing except what we base on our own selves, and when we prefer our friends to ourselves, we are just following our own taste or pleasure. Nevertheless, it is only by that preference that friendship can be true and perfect.


Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)


The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you do anything but be yourself.


Lao-Tzu (BC 600-?, Chinese philosopher, founder of Taoism)


No man can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself.


James Russell Lowell (1819-1891, American poet, critic, editor)


Our whole life is an attempt to discover when our spontaneity is whimsical, sentimental irresponsibility and when it is a valid expression of our deepest desires and values.


Helen Merrell Lynd


The pain of leaving those you grow to love is only the prelude to understanding yourself and others.


Shirley MacLaine (1934-, American actress)


Accept yourself as you are. Otherwise you will never see opportunity. You will not feel free to move toward it; you will feel you are not deserving.


Maxwell Maltz (1944-, Canadian-born American plastic surgeon, author of "Psycho-Cybernetics")


I want to be remembered as the person who helped us restore faith in ourselves.


Wilma Pearl Mankiller


You will always have to live with yourself, and it is to your best interest to see that you have good company -- a clean, pure, straight, honest, upright, generous, magnanimous companion.


Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924, American author, founder of Success Magazine)


A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.


Andrew Matthews (1948-, American artist, cartoonist, author)


People who do not love themselves can adore others, because adoration is making someone else big and ourselves small. They can desire others, because desire comes out of a sense of inner incompleteness, which demands to be filled. But they can not love others, because love is an affirmation of the living growing being in all of us. If you don't have it, you can't give it.


Andrew Matthews (1948-, American artist, cartoonist, author)


I am a big believer in the "mirror test." All that matters is if you can look in the mirror and honestly tell the person you see there, that you've done your best.


John McKay (1923-, American football coach)


I don't tell the truth any more to those who can't make use of it. I tell it mostly to myself, because it always changes me.


Anais Nin (1914-1977, French-born American novelist, dancer)


Every kind of love is love, but self-love is supreme among them.


Nigerian Proverb (Sayings of Nigerian origin)


Above the cloud with its shadow is the star with its light. Above all things reverence thyself.


Pythagoras (BC 582-507, Greek philosopher, mathematician)


Beauty to me is being comfortable in your own skin.


Gwyneth Paltrow (1972-, American actress)


The search for a new personality is futile; what is fruitful is the human interest the old personality can take in new activities.


Cesare Pavese (1908-1950, Italian poet, novelist, translator)


It is of practical value to learn to like yourself. Since you must spend so much time with yourself you might as well get some satisfaction out of the relationship.


Norman Vincent Peale (1898-1993, American Christian reformed pastor, speaker, author)


Learn what you are and be such.


Pindar (BC 518?-18438, Greek poet)


Self-love seems so often unrequited.


Anthony Powell (1905-2000, British novelist)


An elephant never gets tired of supporting its tusks.


African Proverb (Sayings of African origin)


A guilty conscience is a hidden enemy.


American Indian Proverb (Sayings of American Indian origin)


When everyone takes care of himself, care is taken of all.


English Proverb (Sayings of British origin)


I love my friends -- but I love myself more.


French Proverb (Sayings of French origin)


Your own deeds will long be baptized on you.


Irish Proverb (Sayings of Irish origin)


The crow that mimics a cormorant gets drowned.


Japanese Proverb (Sayings of Japanese origin)


Who is not good for himself is no good for others.


Yiddish Proverb (Sayings of Yiddish origin)


I am the only real truth I know.


Jean Rhys (1894-1979, British author)


No man is defeated without until he has first been defeated within.


Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962, American First Lady, columnist, lecturer, humanitarian)


Remember always that you have not only the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.


Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962, American First Lady, columnist, lecturer, humanitarian)


Solitude is one thing and loneliness is another.


May Sarton (1912-1995, American poet, novelist)


It is possible to be different and still be all right.


Anne W. Schaef


Love your self's self where it lives.


Anne Sexton (1928-1974, American poet)


Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.


Anne Sexton (1928-1974, American poet)


Self-love, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.


William Shakespeare (1564-1616, British poet, playwright, actor)


Fond as we are of our loved ones, there comes at times during their absence an unexplained peace.


Anna Howard Shaw


Fond as we are of our loved ones, there comes at times during their absence an unexplained peace.


Anna Howard Shaw


Whatever you are from nature, keep to it; never desert your own line of talent. Be what nature intended you for, and you will succeed; be anything else, and you will be ten thousand times worse than nothing.


Sydney Smith (1771-1845, British writer, clergyman)


The highest courage is to dare to appear to be what one is.


John Lancaster Spalding


If you're gonna be a failure, at least be one at something you enjoy.


Sylvester Stallone (1946-, American actor, writer, director, producer)


To make the choice for independent survival, the great man's wife has to become convinced of her own intrinsic worth.


Joanna T. Steichen


Self-esteem isn't everything; it's just that there's nothing without it.


Gloria Steinem (1934-, American feminist writer, editor)


When you feel good about yourself, others will feel good about you, too.


Jake Steinfeld (1958-, American bodybuilder)


To aim at the best and to remain essentially ourselves is one and the same thing.


Janet Erskine Stuart


The self is not something that one finds. It is something one creates.


Thomas Szasz (1920-, American psychiatrist)


Know that you are your greatest enemy, but also your greatest friend.


Jeremy Taylor (1613-1667, British churchman, writer)


Be gentle to all and stem with yourself.


St. Teresa of Avila (1515-1582, Spanish saint, mystic)


Misfortunes occur only when a man is false.... Events, circumstances, etc., have their origin in ourselves. They spring from seeds which we have sown.


Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862, American essayist, poet, naturalist)


We have to learn to be our own best friend, because we fall too easily into the trap of being out worst enemy.


James Thurber (1894-1961, American humorist, illustrator)


If only I had a little humility, I'd be perfect.


Ted Turner (1938-, American businessman, founder of CNN)


If I trim myself to suit others I will soon whittle myself away.


Author Unknown


To dream of the person you would like to be is to waste the person you are.


Author Unknown


To love others, we must first learn to love ourselves.


Author Unknown


Know the self to be sitting in the chariot, the body to be the chariot, the intellect the charioteer, and the mind the reins.


Veda Upanishads (c. BC 800-, Hindu poetic dialogues on metaphysics)


It is not love that should be depicted as blind, but self-love.


Francois-Marie Arouet de Voltaire (1694-1778, French historian, writer)


Self-love is the instrument of our preservation.


Francois-Marie Arouet de Voltaire (1694-1778, French historian, writer)


There's only one me, and I'm stuck with him.


Kurt Vonnegut Jr. (1922-, American novelist)


I never loved another person the way I loved myself.


Mae West (1892-1980, American actress)


It's the soul's duty to be loyal to its own desires.


Rebecca West (1892-1983, British author)


I dote on myself, there is that lot of me and all so luscious.


Walt Whitman (1819-1892, American poet)


Practice being at home with yourself, as you step out to be with others.


Marcia Wieder (American speaker, trainer, author)


What I have learned in my life and work is that the more I am able to be myself, the more it enables other people to be themselves.


Oprah Winfrey (1954-, American TV personality, producer, actress, author)


The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.


Margaret Young (American author)


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